The Upbringing of Children Today: A Biblical and Spiritual Reflection on Parenting and Lifestyle Influence
Introduction: A Generation at
Risk
In
today’s fractured world, the upbringing of children has become a significant
challenge. Modern lifestyles, societal pressures, and a widespread
spiritual vacuum have left many children emotionally wounded, spiritually
barren, and confused. The rapid pace of life, coupled with constant
distractions and technological noise, has created a generation where children
often feel lost in the chaos. They are searching for meaning, identity,
and purpose, but many are doing so without the firm, loving
foundation of godly parenting and spiritual guidance.
The
influence of social media, peer pressure, and a culture that
increasingly rejects traditional moral values have further compounded
the struggles children face today. Many are exposed to confusing messages
about gender, identity, success, and relationships—often
at an age when they are still trying to make sense of the world around them.
These external pressures, combined with the lack of proper emotional
and spiritual support from their families, leave many children feeling isolated
and misunderstood.
The
result is a generation vulnerable to a host of emotional and psychological
struggles, such as depression, identity crises, rebellion,
anxiety, and destructive habits like substance abuse and self-harm.
Many young people are grappling with the weight of these issues in silence,
unable to fully understand or communicate the depth of their inner turmoil.
These struggles are often compounded by a lack of guidance or intervention,
leaving children to navigate an increasingly confusing world on their own.
In
the midst of this, the sacred calling of parenting has never been more
urgent. Parenting is not merely a task or a series of duties—it is a divine
assignment. Children are not random beings who simply grow up to become
adults; they are masterpieces, fearfully and wonderfully made by God
(Psalm 139:14), each carrying a unique divine purpose within them.
The
importance of parenting lies not only in preparing children for the challenges
of this world but, more significantly, in nurturing their eternal souls for
God’s Kingdom. It is a responsibility that cannot be taken lightly, for the
future of children—both spiritually and emotionally—hinges on the
love, guidance, and wisdom imparted by parents.
Parenting,
therefore, is not about merely preparing children for the challenges of the
world but about preparing them for eternity. In a time when so much
threatens to derail the hearts and minds of the young, it is the responsibility
of parents to lay down a firm foundation of faith, love, and wisdom, so
that children can navigate the complexities of life with hope, resilience,
and an unwavering sense of purpose.
1. Children Are Born With
Purpose – Parents Are Vessels
Every
child enters the world with a divinely ordained purpose, known only to
God. Each child is not the result of mere chance or happenstance but is a unique
creation, intricately designed with a plan and destiny that transcends the
limits of this earthly life. Parents are the vessels through which God
brings these children into existence, and with this divine responsibility comes
the solemn task of guiding them toward fulfilling God’s purpose for
their lives.
The
Bible makes this truth unmistakably clear in Jeremiah 1:5:
“Before
I formed you in the womb, I knew you. Before you were born, I set you apart; I
appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”
This
profound verse speaks directly to the reality that every child is known to
God before they are even conceived. Before the first breath, before the
first cry, God has already set each child apart, with a unique
calling and purpose. No child is born by accident, and no child
is without divine significance. While the world may view a child simply as
a future adult, God sees the fullness of their potential—their God-ordained
calling and the destiny He has prepared for them. Each child is a
vessel of God’s divine purpose.
Parents,
therefore, are entrusted with the sacred responsibility of nurturing,
protecting, and guiding their children not just for this life but with eternity
in mind. It’s not simply about raising a child to survive in the world, but
about preparing them to fulfill the purpose for which they were created.
This means that in the midst of daily routines, societal pressures, and
personal ambitions, parents must recognize the sacredness of their role
in shaping their child’s future, both spiritually and personally.
Although
parents may not fully understand the specific destiny of their children,
it is their responsibility to steward this divine calling. They are
appointed to walk alongside their children, supporting them through the ups
and downs, instilling faith, love, and values that will guide them
toward their God-given purpose. This requires spiritual awareness—parents
must learn how to best cultivate an environment where their children can grow
into the person God has called them to be.
In
this context, it is important for parents to understand that their role is not
to impose their own unfulfilled dreams or desires onto their children.
Instead, parents are called to seek God’s guidance in helping their
children discover their unique calling. This means understanding that
each child is different, with their own gifts, strengths, and potential. It’s
not about molding children into a carbon copy of parental expectations
but about nurturing them so they can flourish in the destiny God has set for
them.
Through
prayer, teaching, and example, parents can help their children recognize
and walk in the purpose God has for them. A parent’s role is to guide,
encourage, protect, and pray for their child, trusting that God’s plan
for that child is already in motion. They are to nurture their children
spiritually, emotionally, and physically, providing them with the tools they
need to thrive in their unique calling.
The
responsibility of parents, then, is much more than providing material needs. It
is about laying the foundation that will lead their children to discover
and live out the divine destiny God has planned for them. This requires intentional,
prayerful parenting that seeks God’s will in every decision,
trusting that every child—though unique in their journey—has been created with
a divine purpose that is greater than themselves.
As
Psalm 127:3 reminds us, “Children are a heritage from the Lord,
offspring a reward from him.” Every child is a precious gift from
God, and parents are the stewards of that gift, entrusted to guide them toward
their God-ordained purpose.
2. Wounds Begin in the
Womb – The Power of Rejection and Neglect
Many
parents are unaware that a child’s emotional and spiritual well-being
begins long before birth. It is not just the physical environment that shapes a
child’s development; the emotional and spiritual climate within the womb
can have profound effects on their life later on. A child in the womb can
experience feelings of love, rejection, or trauma, which
can lay the foundation for the emotional and spiritual struggles they will face
later. For instance, the rejection of a pregnancy—whether through thoughts
of abortion or negative emotions surrounding the pregnancy—can create deep,
lasting scars that lead to feelings of insecurity, fear, and rejection.
Even if the child survives, the emotional and spiritual impact can be
devastating.
The
Bible highlights this concept in Luke 1:41:
“When
Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the baby leaped in her womb, and Elizabeth was
filled with the Holy Spirit.”
This
powerful moment demonstrates that even unborn children are spiritually aware.
In this passage, John the Baptist, while still in the womb, responds to
the presence of Jesus, indicating that a child’s spirit is sensitive and
capable of responding to spiritual realities from the earliest stages of
life. The child’s response, even before birth, highlights the significance of
the womb as a place of spiritual formation, not just physical growth.
This is a powerful reminder that the child is not just a biological entity but
a spiritual being from conception, and that their emotional and
spiritual well-being begins in the womb.
When
a child experiences emotional neglect or physical abuse during
pregnancy, these experiences can translate into spiritual and psychological
wounds that may shape their future. The womb is not just a physical
environment—it is a spiritual and emotional environment. What
happens in this sacred space matters. Parents may not be aware of the
far-reaching impact their emotions, actions, or attitudes can have on their
child’s developing soul. For instance, a mother who experiences fear, anger,
or trauma during pregnancy may unknowingly pass these emotions onto her
child, creating an atmosphere of anxiety or rejection that the
child carries for the rest of their life.
The
Bible reminds us of the spiritual sensitivity of children in the womb.
In Jeremiah 1:5, God speaks of the prophet Jeremiah, saying:
“Before
I formed you in the womb, I knew you. Before you were born, I set you apart…”
This
speaks to the divine truth that even before the child is born, they are known and
set apart by God. The child is not just growing physically but is being shaped
spiritually from the very moment of conception. Every feeling of love or
rejection, every word spoken, every action taken by the parents during
pregnancy has the potential to affect the child’s spiritual health.
If
a child is conceived in a context of rejection, fear, or violence,
the emotional and spiritual wounds inflicted during this time can manifest
throughout their life. A child may grow up with feelings of unworthiness,
a deep-seated fear of rejection, or struggles with forming healthy
relationships. These early wounds are not just psychological but spiritual,
as they often affect the child’s understanding of their identity and value
in God’s eyes.
Parents
may not recognize the power of their words, actions, or attitudes during
pregnancy, but these can deeply affect the spiritual and emotional future of
their children. God, however, is aware of the deepest needs of both parent
and child. Even if parents have unknowingly caused wounds, God can bring
healing. Parents are called to embrace their divine role in
nurturing their children, beginning before birth. This means parents
must not only ensure physical health but also create an environment of peace,
love, and affirmation, knowing that these early influences are foundational
for the child’s emotional and spiritual development.
Therefore,
it is crucial for parents to understand the importance of their actions during
pregnancy and to consciously seek to create a healthy, nurturing environment
for their child. This may involve praying over the child even before
birth, speaking words of affirmation and life, and rejecting any fear, anxiety,
or negativity. As Psalm 139:13-14 affirms:
“For
you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise
you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made…”
This
verse speaks to the profound truth that every child is fearfully and
wonderfully made by God, even in the womb. As parents, we are called to nurture
this truth by providing a spiritually healthy environment that
encourages the child to grow in the love and security that only God can
provide. Every moment, beginning in the womb, is a sacred opportunity to
affirm the child’s divine value and purpose.
3. Children Are Not
Inferior – They Are Spiritual Beings Too
There
is a prevalent misconception in society that children are inferior
beings compared to adults. However, this perspective fails to recognize the
profound spiritual reality of childhood. Children are spiritual
beings with souls and spirits, just like adults. The primary
difference between children and adults is that children enter the world with a blank
slate, eager to absorb the teachings, values, and experiences that will
shape their identities. They are not lesser beings, but rather, they are
incomplete individuals in need of guidance, nurturing, and love to grow
into the people God has designed them to be.
The
environment in which children grow up plays a critical role in shaping their
development—emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically. What they see, hear,
and experience on a daily basis shapes their perception of themselves
and the world around them. Children are like sponges, absorbing information and
forming their identity based on what they encounter. The attitudes and
behaviors of the adults around them—particularly their parents—leave lasting
impressions that can either nurture or damage their emotional and spiritual
growth.
The
Bible offers wisdom on the power of words in Proverbs 18:21:
“Death
and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the
fruit thereof.”
This
verse speaks to the incredible power of words—the words spoken to a
child can either build them up or tear them down. Words like
“useless,” “stupid,” or “evil” can deeply wound a child’s sense of self-worth,
leaving them to internalize these negative labels and carry them throughout
their life. It’s not merely a psychological issue; it is a misuse of
spiritual authority. Parents, as the primary spiritual authorities in their
children’s lives, have a tremendous responsibility to speak life into
their children.
The
Bible teaches that life and death are held in the power of the tongue.
When parents speak words of encouragement, affirmation, and love,
they can help shape a child’s identity in a way that aligns with God’s purpose
for them. In contrast, harsh or destructive words can lead to a child feeling worthless,
rejected, or unlovable, which may impact their spiritual growth
and sense of identity in Christ.
Children
are highly impressionable and, therefore, they are more likely to accept
the words of their parents as truth. If a parent repeatedly tells a
child they are worthless or incapable, the child may begin to believe these
words and live accordingly. But, if a parent speaks words of encouragement,
hope, and truth, they help the child develop a positive identity rooted
in the truth of who they are in Christ. This can have a transformative
effect on their emotional, spiritual, and mental health.
Jesus
Himself demonstrated the importance of speaking words of life. Matthew 19:14
says:
“Let
the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the
kingdom of heaven.”
Jesus
valued children and understood their spiritual significance. Parents
must recognize that their children are not just physical beings; they are spiritual
beings with eternal significance. Every word spoken over them, whether positive
or negative, has a spiritual impact. Children must be surrounded by
words that affirm their identity in Christ, their worthiness of love,
and their purpose in God’s plan.
As
spiritual beings, children are also open vessels, eagerly learning from
the world around them. It is the responsibility of parents to fill these
vessels with truth, love, and wisdom. This is why it is crucial to be mindful
of the environment children are placed in—what they hear, what they see, and
what they experience shapes the foundation of their spiritual identity.
Parents
must not only be careful with their words but also intentional with their actions
and attitudes. Children are constantly observing their parents and
imitating their behavior. If parents model love, kindness, respect, and spiritual
maturity, children are more likely to adopt these values as their own.
Conversely, if parents model anger, hatred, or harshness, children may
internalize these behaviors and struggle with negative patterns later in
life.
Ultimately,
children are not inferior; they are spiritual beings who are open
to God’s truth. As parents, it is our responsibility to guide them in a way
that aligns with God’s will, nurturing them through words and actions that
build them up, rather than tearing them down. Every child is a precious
creation of God, and it is our role to help them discover their true identity
in Christ and grow into the person God has designed them to be.
4. The Role of Parents:
Presence Over Provision
In
today’s fast-paced world, the demands of careers, financial goals, and
social status often dominate the priorities of many parents, leaving little
room for emotional connection with their children. This imbalance has
led to a growing crisis where children are increasingly raised by
others—whether grandparents, house managers, or digital devices—rather than by
their biological parents. While providing for a child’s physical
needs is undeniably important, it can never replace the critical
need for emotional connection and presence.
True
parenting is about more than just securing a child’s material needs—it’s about
being present in their lives. This presence goes beyond being in the
same room; it involves engaging with them, listening to their concerns, hearing
their hearts, and consistently showing love and affection. Children
need to feel seen and heard by their parents. This connection is
the foundation of a healthy parent-child relationship and a critical
component in the development of a child’s emotional health.
Sadly,
in many homes today, children experience a lack of real connection.
Parents may be physically present but emotionally absent, consumed with
the busyness of life. Outsourcing the responsibility of raising children—even
to trusted family members or hired help—can result in emotional distance that
is difficult to mend. While these external figures may provide for the child’s basic
needs, they cannot provide the deep emotional nurturing that only
parents can offer.
Even
worse, when parents delegate their parenting role to others, children may be
left vulnerable to abuse or neglect from those entrusted with their
care. Cases of child abuse—often perpetrated by relatives or hired
help—are tragically common. These abuses can leave children emotionally
scarred and confused, often in silence. Why? Because the child feels
that their parents are too busy or emotionally unavailable to
notice their distress. As a result, the child may suffer in silence, too afraid
or ashamed to speak up for fear of retaliation or misunderstanding.
Moreover,
the lack of presence can lead children to withdraw inwardly. When a
child feels ignored or that their struggles are invisible to their parents,
they may retreat into themselves, often manifesting symptoms of loneliness,
anxiety, or emotional numbness. In these cases, the child may
feel that they are not valued or loved, leading to a breakdown in communication
and a weakened bond between parent and child. This can have long-lasting
consequences, including:
·
Emotional numbness: Children may become
disconnected from their feelings, unable to express themselves or seek comfort
when in pain.
·
Depression: Feeling unseen or unheard can
lead to profound sadness and a sense of hopelessness.
·
Increased vulnerability to peer pressure and
external influences: Without parental connection, children may look for
validation or attention from others, which could expose them to unhealthy
influences, including drugs, bad company, or harmful behaviors.
It
is essential for parents to recognize that true parenting involves sacrifice—sacrificing
time, energy, and personal pursuits to invest emotionally in their
children. Being physically present in a child’s life is not enough; parents
must actively engage with their children, offering not just food and
shelter, but a listening ear, affirming words, and the security
that comes from knowing they are loved unconditionally.
In
this age of digital distractions, screen time has further reduced the
quality of connection between parents and children. Rather than spending time engaging
with their children, some parents allow digital devices to act as
stand-ins for real relational connection. However, these devices cannot provide
the emotional nourishment a child needs. Technology cannot replace
love. The more parents allow these devices to take precedence over genuine
human connection, the more likely their children will feel neglected or
ignored.
The
biblical principle of parenting underscores the importance of being present—both
physically and emotionally—in a child’s life. Proverbs 22:6 says:
“Train
up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old, he will not depart
from it.”
Training
a child requires more than just instructing them with words; it involves
walking alongside them, offering consistent support, guidance, and
love. This can only happen when parents prioritize presence over
provision and actively invest in the emotional and spiritual growth of their
children.
Parents are called to be actively involved in their children’s lives, offering the kind of care and attention that leads to meaningful relationships. Children are not simply physical beings; they are emotional and spiritual beings who need love, affirmation, and emotional connection to thrive. As parents, it is critical to understand that emotional neglect is just as damaging as physical neglect, and the absence of emotional connection can have profound and lasting effects on a child’s well-being.
Beware of Sending Children to Stay with Relatives
One of the potential dangers parents may overlook is the practice of sending children to stay with grandparents or relatives during holidays or vacations when they are not present. While this may seem like a way to offer children a change of environment, it can inadvertently expose them to harmful influences. Not all relatives have the best intentions, and even well-meaning family members can expose children to unhealthy situations.
Parents must be careful when sending children to stay with relatives, especially if they do not have a strong, trusting relationship with them. Children might be exposed to inappropriate behavior, neglect, or even jealous relatives who may harbor ill intentions and seek to harm or manipulate them. These situations can have lasting negative effects on a child’s emotional, psychological, and spiritual well-being.
There may be evil family members or individuals who take advantage of the absence of parents to introduce children to dangerous ideas, behavior, or even dark spiritual practices. Whether knowingly or unknowingly, these relatives can expose children to harmful environments, from unhealthy relationships to malicious behaviors, which may deeply affect their development and worldview.
Parents should be vigilant in ensuring that any extended family or relatives they entrust their children to are aligned with their values and are genuinely nurturing and protective. It’s crucial to prioritize children’s emotional security and well-being by maintaining direct involvement in their lives and not leaving them vulnerable to potential harm or negative influences.
In conclusion, true parenting requires presence—being fully engaged in a child’s life, offering both guidance and love. The emotional connection between parent and child is a sacred bond that must be nurtured daily. When parents prioritize their relationship with their children over material gain or personal ambitions, they invest in a future where their children can grow emotionally healthy, spiritually grounded, and confident in their identity in Christ.
5. Boarding Schools and
the Separation from Parental Guidance
In
today’s fast-paced world, one of the growing concerns in modern parenting is
the increasing trend of sending children to boarding schools at a young
age. While these institutions may offer academic advantages, such as better
facilities, extracurricular activities, and a more structured environment, the
emotional and spiritual costs of such a separation can be significant,
particularly for younger children.
The
fundamental role of a parent—being the primary source of emotional,
spiritual, and relational guidance—becomes compromised when children are
sent away to boarding schools, especially in their formative years. In the
early stages of development, children are emotionally vulnerable and
require their parents’ consistent presence to nurture their emotional
and spiritual well-being. Mom and dad are not just the providers of food
and shelter, but are meant to be the anchor and foundation for
the child’s sense of identity, security, and love.
When
children are separated from their parents at a young age, especially in lower
schools, they are often not equipped to handle the emotional strain of such
an adjustment. The absence of consistent parental guidance can lead to a
host of issues. For instance:
·
Emotional withdrawal: Children may become
emotionally detached as they lack the emotional support that parents typically
provide.
·
Feelings of abandonment: Being away from
home for extended periods, without the comforting presence of their parents,
can foster a sense of neglect and isolation.
·
Lack of spiritual guidance: Children
raised in a home where faith is an essential part of life benefit from
the daily spiritual practices and teachings of their parents. A boarding
school environment, though structured, may not provide the same level of spiritual
nurture and guidance.
·
Confusion about identity: Without the
emotional and spiritual anchoring of their parents, children may struggle to
maintain a sense of identity and purpose, especially during their formative
years when they are figuring out who they are.
Psalm
127:3 reminds us that children are a heritage and a gift from the
Lord:
“Children
are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.”
It
is crucial for parents to recognize that their primary responsibility is
not just to provide academically for their children but also to ensure they are
nurtured emotionally and spiritually. The lack of parental connection
due to boarding school placement can inadvertently create a gap in a
child’s sense of belonging and trust. This gap can lead to emotional
instability or strained relationships, which could persist into adulthood.
The
importance of parental presence cannot be overstated. Parents are the
primary role models and spiritual mentors for their children. When children
are sent away from home, especially in their younger years, it can become
difficult to establish or maintain that deep parent-child bond. This separation
can often lead to confusion, loneliness, and, over time, a deterioration
of trust between parent and child.
It’s
not just about academics. A child’s emotional well-being and spiritual
formation depend heavily on the presence of loving, attentive
parents. Proverbs 22:6 highlights the importance of parental
influence:
“Train
up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from
it.”
When
children are removed from the everyday influence of their parents, it becomes
increasingly difficult to instill the core values, spiritual lessons,
and emotional tools that will guide them throughout their lives. This
absence may inadvertently create a sense of abandonment or confusion,
causing the child to look elsewhere for direction—sometimes leading them down
paths that are harmful or misguided.
In
cases where boarding school is the only viable option for various
reasons, it becomes even more crucial for parents to maintain frequent and
meaningful communication with their children. Frequent visits, phone calls,
and thoughtful care packages can help bridge the emotional gap and remind
children of their parents’ love and spiritual presence. Parents should
strive to remain spiritually engaged in their children’s lives, even
from a distance, through prayer, encouraging words, and guidance.
The
goal of parenting is not just to prepare children for academic success
but to raise them in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians
6:4). A child’s spiritual and emotional development is equally as important
as their intellectual growth. Parents are called to be their children’s first
teachers and guides, providing a stable, nurturing environment where they
feel safe, secure, and spiritually enriched.
In
conclusion, while boarding schools may offer certain academic and logistical
benefits, the emotional and spiritual costs of separating young children
from their parents can be profound. Parents must carefully weigh the long-term
effects this separation could have on their child’s emotional well-being, trust
in their parents, and spiritual development. When possible, parental
presence should be prioritized above all other factors, as children thrive
most when they are raised in a home where love, guidance, and spiritual
nourishment are abundant.
6. The Danger of Silence and
Exposure
In
today’s world, where information is abundant and easily accessible, parents
face an increasingly difficult task of shielding their children from harmful
influences. The power of media, social networks, and peer
pressure can shape the worldview of children in ways that are often
detrimental to their spiritual, emotional, and mental well-being. When parents
fail to teach their children about important topics like boundaries, relationships,
identity, and spiritual matters, children will inevitably look to
the world around them to fill in the gaps.
The
exposure to inappropriate content, whether through television, social media, or
peer interactions, can lead children into unhealthy behaviors such as pornography,
early sexual activity, or even involvement in occult practices.
These influences are not harmless; they often carry long-lasting consequences
that shape a child’s values, beliefs, and behaviors.
The
media and entertainment industries often propagate distorted
views of reality—values that contradict biblical teachings and promote a secular,
self-centered worldview. Without the protective shield of parental
guidance, children are vulnerable to accepting these false ideas, leading them
down dangerous paths. The world teaches them that sexuality is something
to be explored without boundaries, that identity can be fluid and
defined by personal preference, and that relationships can be based on
fleeting desires and self-gratification.
Matthew
18:6 provides a stern warning about the consequences of neglecting to
protect children from these harmful influences:
“But
if anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble,
it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck
and to be drowned in the depths of the sea.”
This
verse underscores the seriousness with which God views the spiritual
vulnerability of children. Leading a child astray, either through
direct action or through neglect, is a grave offense in God’s eyes. When
parents fail to speak into their children’s lives and provide them with a solid
foundation of truth, they are essentially leaving them exposed to the influences
of the world that can lead to spiritual ruin.
Ephesians
6:4 reminds parents of their responsibility to raise their children in the
knowledge and guidance of the Lord:
“Fathers,
do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and
instruction of the Lord.”
It
is not enough to simply avoid exposing children to harmful influences; parents
must actively teach them about the dangers that exist in the world. This
includes providing clear guidance on issues like relationships, boundaries,
and identity—topics that the world often handles in ways that conflict
with biblical values.
·
Relationships: Children need to learn the
importance of healthy, godly relationships based on respect, love, and
commitment. They need to understand the significance of boundaries in
relationships, especially in a world that often celebrates promiscuity
and casual encounters.
·
Identity: Children need to be taught that
their identity is rooted in their relationship with God, not in
what the world defines as valuable or popular. When they understand that their
worth comes from being fearfully and wonderfully made in God’s image,
they are less likely to fall prey to the identity confusion that society
promotes.
·
Spiritual Matters: Finally, parents must
provide their children with a strong spiritual foundation, grounding them in biblical
truths about morality, holiness, and the love of God.
Without this foundation, children are left to navigate a confusing and often
hostile world without the tools to discern right from wrong.
The
world will always try to influence children, offering easy answers,
counterfeit pleasures, and false promises. Proactive parenting is
essential to ensure that children are not swept away by these waves of
falsehood. Parents must teach their children the truth of Scripture and
help them develop a biblical worldview that empowers them to stand firm
in their faith and make wise choices.
The
danger of silence and exposure is real. If parents remain passive,
leaving their children to be shaped by a world that is hostile to God, they are
failing to fulfill their role as the primary protectors and guides of
their children’s hearts and minds. Proverbs 22:6 challenges parents to
be intentional in their teachings:
“Train
up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from
it.”
Parents
must be proactive in equipping their children spiritually, emotionally,
and mentally. Training them to discern the difference between truth and
deception, right and wrong, is essential in preparing them to face the world
and live out the purpose God has designed for them.
In
conclusion, the danger of silence and exposure is ever-present. Parents
must actively teach their children about the dangers of worldly
influences and equip them with the tools to navigate a world filled with
temptations. This is not only a matter of protecting them from harm but also
ensuring they are spiritually prepared to stand firm in their faith, regardless
of the pressures they may face.
7. The Spiritual Battle
for the Next Generation
Throughout
history, the enemy has waged war against the next generation, knowing that children
are the vessels through which God’s plans for the future will unfold. This
battle has been fought in many forms, from ancient infanticide to modern
ideologies that seek to undermine God’s truth. In ancient times, Pharaoh
ordered the killing of infants (Exodus 1), seeking to destroy the future
leaders of Israel. Similarly, King Herod sought to eliminate the newborn
Savior by massacring children in Bethlehem (Matthew 2). In both instances, the
enemy recognized the potential of these children and sought to eradicate them,
fearing the impact they would have on the world.
In
today’s world, the battle for the hearts and minds of children is no less
fierce, but it is fought through more subtle and pervasive means. The media,
education systems, and cultural ideologies have become the modern
battleground where children are exposed to ideas that undermine biblical
truths and promote confusion about identity, sexuality, and morality.
The Influence of the World
Children today are bombarded
with messages that challenge the biblical understanding of gender, family,
and sexuality. These messages are often presented as progressive,
inclusive, and empowering, but in reality, they distort God’s
design for human flourishing. Through television, social media,
and popular culture, children are exposed to witchcraft, rebellion,
and even occult practices, which have been glamorized and normalized.
- Witchcraft
and the Occult: Many children’s shows, movies, and books promote
themes of witchcraft, sorcery, and the supernatural. These messages are
often disguised as harmless fantasy but subtly lead children into spiritual
darkness, encouraging them to seek power outside of God’s will.
- Rebellion
and Lawlessness: The entertainment industry often celebrates
rebellious characters who reject authority, parents, and societal norms.
This portrayal of defiance may seem appealing to children, especially
those who feel misunderstood or disconnected. However, the biblical
principle of honoring father and mother (Exodus 20:12) is vital for a
child’s emotional and spiritual growth.
- Gender
and Sexuality Confusion: One of the most pervasive ideologies being
promoted today is the confusion surrounding gender identity and sexuality.
Children are taught that gender is not defined by biological sex but is a social
construct that can be chosen or changed at will. This goes against the
biblical truth that God created man and woman in His image (Genesis 1:27).
Without proper guidance from their parents and spiritual leaders, children
are vulnerable to adopting these distorted views about their identity and
worth.
The Role of Parents in the Battle
Parents must be spiritually
alert and aware of the forces at work in their children’s lives. They have
been given the divine responsibility to guard their children’s hearts and
minds, shielding them from harmful influences while also teaching them God’s
truth. This is a spiritual battle, and it requires parents to actively
engage in the spiritual upbringing of their children.
- Prayer:
Parents must be praying for their children daily, asking God to protect
them from harmful influences and to open their hearts to His truth. Prayer
is the first line of defense in the spiritual battle for the next
generation.
- Teaching:
The Bible commands parents to teach their children God’s Word diligently
(Deuteronomy 6:6-7). Parents must instill biblical values and truths in
their children so that they can discern right from wrong and stand firm in
their faith.
- Modeling:
Parents must be examples of godliness in their own lives. Children
learn more from what they see than what they are told. By living
out their faith authentically, parents can model how to walk in truth,
grace, and love, even in a world that promotes lies and confusion.
Spiritual Armor for the Battle
The spiritual battle
that children face is not one they can fight on their own. As the enemy seeks
to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), children need the armor of God
to protect them. Parents must teach their children to put on the full armor of
God (Ephesians 6:10-18), which includes the belt of truth, the breastplate
of righteousness, the shield of faith, the helmet of salvation,
and the sword of the Spirit (which is the Word of God). Only through
these spiritual defenses can children stand strong against the forces of
darkness that seek to draw them away from God’s purpose.
The enemy will not
relent in his pursuit of the next generation, but God has promised that
His Word will never return void (Isaiah 55:11). When parents and children stand
together in faith, seeking to live out God’s purpose for their lives, they will
have the strength to overcome any spiritual attack.
The Call to Action
As believers, we are called to
protect the next generation and equip them to stand firm in their faith.
The spiritual battle is real, and it is intensifying as culture
continues to move further away from God’s truth. Parents, churches, and
communities must unite to teach and protect the children in their
care, ensuring that they are spiritually prepared for the challenges they will
face.
In conclusion, the spiritual battle
for the next generation is ongoing, and the stakes are high. Parents must
be vigilant, prayerful, and intentional in raising their
children to know and love God. As children face the pressures of the world,
they must be anchored in the truth of God’s Word, equipped to stand firm, and
empowered to live out their purpose as children of God. May we, as parents,
leaders, and the body of Christ, rise up to this challenge and protect the next
generation from the lies and attacks of the enemy.
8. Parenting by God’s Design
God’s
design for parenting is clearly outlined in Scripture, providing a blueprint
for how parents are to guide, nurture, and protect their children. Parenting,
when done according to God’s will, encompasses love, correction, teaching,
example-setting, and leaving a legacy. Each of these principles is rooted in
the Scriptures and reflects God’s heart for the family.
I. Love and Correction
One of the most important
aspects of parenting according to God’s design is the balance of love and
correction. As much as parents are called to love their children
unconditionally, they are also called to correct them when necessary.
God Himself corrects those He loves, and parents are to follow His example in
disciplining their children with love and care. This correction is not about
punishment but about guiding children towards maturity and godliness. Proverbs
3:12 states:
“Whom the Lord loves He
corrects, just as a father the son in whom he delights.”
This passage emphasizes that
correction is a sign of love and is essential for the growth and
development of a child. Discipline is an act of love, aimed at steering
children away from destructive behaviors and towards the path of righteousness.
II. Spiritual Teaching
God has entrusted parents with
the responsibility of teaching their children His ways. Spiritual
education is not something that should be left to the church or school alone—it
begins in the home. Parents are called to diligently teach their
children about God, His Word, and His ways. In Deuteronomy 6:7, it says:
“You shall teach them
diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house,
when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise.”
This verse highlights the intentionality
required in teaching children. Parents are called to incorporate God’s truth
into the rhythms of daily life, making faith an integral part of every moment.
It’s not just about formal lessons but about fostering an environment where
children encounter God throughout their daily activities.
III. Being Examples
Parents are not only called to
teach but also to model the Christian faith. Children learn more from
what they see than what they hear, which is why parents must be
intentional about living out their faith authentically. In 1 Corinthians 11:1,
Paul encourages believers:
“Be imitators of me, as I am of
Christ.”
As parents, we are called to live
in such a way that our lives reflect Christ. Our children should be able to
look at us and see a living example of the values we teach them. Whether
in our words, actions, or relationships, we must strive to reflect God’s love,
grace, and truth, knowing that our example will shape the way our children view
and follow Christ.
IV. Protection and Legacy
God’s design for parenting
also involves protection—not only in terms of physical safety but also
emotional, spiritual, and mental well-being. Parents are called to guard their
children from harmful influences and lead them into a life of righteousness.
Additionally, parents are responsible for leaving a legacy—one that
transcends financial wealth. Proverbs 13:22 states:
“A good man leaves an
inheritance to his children’s children.”
This inheritance is not
merely material wealth but a legacy of values, godly teachings, and a
spiritual heritage that will impact future generations. Parents are called to
invest in their children’s lives in ways that leave an eternal impact—by
teaching them to walk in faith, love, and integrity.
A legacy of faith ensures
that children not only inherit material wealth but also the wisdom, guidance,
and strength to pass down those same values to their own children.
Conclusion
Parenting by God’s design is a sacred calling.
It is a task that requires deep intentionality and commitment, rooted in love,
discipline, teaching, modeling, and leaving a lasting spiritual legacy. As
parents, we are to reflect God’s heart in our relationship with our children,
guiding them toward their divine purpose and helping them grow into mature,
godly individuals who will impact future generations for Christ.
9. Call to Parents and Guardians
Parents,
your role is not just to raise children for earthly success, but to
raise them for eternity. The stakes are far higher than academic
achievements or career advancements. Your task is to shape the hearts, minds,
and souls of your children, leading them toward their divine purpose. Be present—both
physically and emotionally. In a world that is increasingly divided by
technology and distractions, your presence is irreplaceable. Do not let the
busyness of life steal the precious moments you have to connect with your
children.
Be
discerning. Understand the pressures and challenges your
children face in this broken world. The external forces—peer pressure, social
media, cultural ideologies—are relentless, and they are shaping your children
in ways that may be difficult to see at first. You must be spiritually alert
and actively involved in your children’s lives, aware of what they are
experiencing, and always ready to provide guidance, correction, and love.
Do
not outsource your children’s emotional or spiritual needs
to others, whether to extended family, friends, or even digital media. The
emotional and spiritual nourishment that your children need must come primarily
from you, their parents. It is through the strength of your connection, your
example, and your prayers that their hearts will be anchored in truth.
Build
deep connections with your children. The world may pull them in many
directions, but your love and care can create a safe, nurturing environment
where they can be themselves, express their struggles, and grow in their
relationship with God. Give them the spiritual guidance they need to
navigate life’s challenges, teaching them to seek God in every circumstance.
To
the young people—understand this truth: your worth is not found in trends,
social media, or fleeting friendships. The world will try to define you by
its standards, but you were created in the image of God, and your identity
is in Him. He knew you before you were born, and He has a plan for your
life that is far greater than anything the world can offer. Seek God’s truth
and godly counsel. Do not let the confusion of this age define who you
are. Stand firm in your identity as a child of God, and know that He has a
purpose for your life that is eternal, not temporary.
Parents,
your responsibility is sacred. You are the spiritual leaders in your
children’s lives, entrusted with shaping the next generation. Guard this
responsibility with prayer, wisdom, and love.
Conclusion: The Time Is Now
Parenting is not just a responsibility—it is a spiritual
assignment. Children are not merely individuals to be raised, but arrows
in the hands of a warrior (Psalm 127:3-4). They are entrusted to us as divine
gifts with the potential to bring light to a dark world. How we
guide them—whether with wisdom and love or neglect and apathy—determines
whether they will fulfill their God-given potential or be lost to the forces of
this world.
The time to act is now. We cannot afford to delay
or overlook the importance of our role as parents and guardians. Let us return
to the ancient paths, where families were rooted in God’s Word,
where children were seen as blessings, and where homes were sanctuaries
of righteousness. In those foundations, children flourished spiritually,
emotionally, and mentally. They were nurtured by parents who understood that
their duty was to prepare them for eternity, not just for the temporary things
of this world.
The future of our generation—and indeed, the future of the
world—depends on it. We are shaping the leaders, the warriors, the
mothers, and fathers of tomorrow. If we take our roles seriously, we will not
only secure the future of our children but also impact the world in ways we
cannot yet fully comprehend.
So, parents and guardians, the question is not whether we
have the time; the question is: Will we make the time? Will we step into our
sacred calling and raise children for eternity? The time to act is now.
Let us commit ourselves to the task with urgency, faith, and hope, knowing that
the seeds we sow today will bear fruit for generations to come.
Email: pathofdivinetruth@gmail.com
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